Where is Happiness?

I lost my happiness since I was three years old when I was taken away from my parents in China, to be raised by my grandparents in Burma. I don’t blame anybody for that because they were doing their best. Don’t we all try to do our best as adults, with our best knowledge and ability?

So, since young, I have been looking for happiness.

After a life time of searching, this is what I’ve found.

I found I’m not alone. We all are searching for happiness in some ways or forms. In fact, our country is founded on the unalienable rights to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.
I’ve also found that most people who cannot find happiness are looking for it at the wrong places.

Let’s face it, happiness is illusive! If you don’t know where to find it, it’ll be just like chasing shadows.

King David was a seeker of happiness. With all his wealth and wisdom, he ultimately found happiness not in his power, possession, or prestige, but in the presence of the Lord. This is what he said in one of his Psalms, “You showed me the path of life; in your presence, there is fullness of joy; at your right hand are pleasures forevermore.” (Psalm 16:11)

In other words, King David found the ultimate happiness in the presence of God.
Now the question is, where is the presence of God? The Bible says, “God is light,” and if we “walk in the light,” we are in fellowship with God, or in God’s presence. (1 John 1:5-7).

In short, happiness is attained by the pursuit of light, or enlightenment. Enlightenment sounds like a big word, but I will make it simple in the future videos.

For now, just remember this: happiness is in the enlightenment.

If you are a seeker of happiness and enlightenment, you are my friend, and I’d like to know you personally. This Thursday, you can find me at the Paramus Rotary Club, on Sundays, you will find me at Trinity Church in Paramus; or if you are somewhere else around the world, just text the key word “happy” to 551-222-3356, and I’ll keep you updated with my new discovery on enlightenment.

Until we meet again, remember, you are the light of the world; set your light free to shine, and you’ll find the ultimate happiness!

An Election Lesson

This election has taught me a great deal about human nature. This is the most disturbing lesson.

We know what makes human beings different from animals is that we have an advanced part of the brain called Cerebral Cortex allowing us to think logically and rationally. Under the Cerebral Cortex we have the Limbic System, which controls our emotions, appetite, and sex–like the basic animal brain. What surprised me is, when it comes to politics, many smart people would set their Cerebral Cortex aside and function only with their Limbic System. What a waste of human brain!

The State of the Spirit Address

I came across people with two opposing emotions lately, and the emotions are unusually strong comparing to the previous times around the presidential inaugurations I have seen. These strong emotions reveal the state of the American spirit, and prompted me to give this State of the Spirit Address, or it may be called the Spiritual State of the Union Address.

This Friday, we will have a new President in the Whitehouse. Whether you like him or not, I’m sure all good Americans expect a peaceful transfer of power between the outgoing government and the incoming one. This is what makes America exceptional, and for the past 240 years, America has set an example in the world with a grace-filled regime change every four or eight years.

However, the past one and a half year has been quite bloody in spirit, in words, and in deeds. This election has brought the worst out of the Americans. I see many of my friends have lost their rationality, and what’s even worse is that they think others have lost their rationality.

At many occasions, I had to check my own sanity to make sure I was not the one losing my mind. It’s quite unfortunate that I’ve lost some friends during this election, and I think you might have too. Many of those friends I have lost prioritize their ideology above all. Christian term for such attitude is “idolatry.”

This election has made me seriously concerned about the state of the spirit. How do you measure the state of the spirit of a society, you might ask? I have a simple method—using the fruit of the spirit as the lens to see the state of the society. As we have been taught, “The fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, generosity, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.” (Gal. 5:22-23a).

Let’s take a glance through this lens together? Do we see more love or hatred in our society today? I see more hatred than love. Vicious words have been spoken. Violent acts have been conducted. Meanest schemes have been plotted. Do we see more joy or sadness? Do we see more peace or contention? Do we see more patience or short fuses? And so on.

We now see a spiritual wilderness on this land. This reminds me of the spiritual desolation around the 6th century B.C.E Israel as described by the Prophet Isaiah. He used a metaphor of a vineyard to describe the situation:

“I will sing for the one I love, a song about his vineyard:
My loved one had a vineyard, on a fertile hillside.
He dug it up and cleared it of stones, and planted it with the choicest vines.
He built a watchtower in it, and cut out a winepress as well.
Then he looked for a crop of good grapes, but it yielded only bad fruit.” (Isaiah 5:1-2)

America has been a fertile land where God has dug it up and cleared it of stones and planted it with the choicest vines. Then he looked for a crop of good grapes, but it yielded only bad fruit. It might be a little too strong to say that we are yielding only bad fruit, but we are on the way there, based on the current state of the spirit.

We need more prophets to see the situation and speak up against the spiritual bareness in our society today, just like Isaiah did in his time, and just like Matin Luther King, Jr. did in his time. As we celebrate Martin Luther King, Jr. Day this week, we need to be reminded about our Christian duty in our society. We are called to be prophets and transformers. We must not be complacent.

What must we do and what is the prophecy for our time and place. I believe it’s time for a Spiritual Reformation. We had a Theological Reformation 500 years ago, but today we need another reformation that I would call it Spiritual Reformation. It’s a restoration of the fruit of the spirit in our personal lives as well as in our society.

We will go beyond judging people by the content of their character but by the fruit they bear. As Jesus said, “You will know them by their fruits.” (Mat. 7:16a). My dream is to see the fruitful lives flourishing in our society soon and beyond.

There’s a Burmese fable called The Bitter Rain: “A wise man foresees the upcoming rain to be toxic. He informs the villagers not to drink from the rain water or they would become insane. The villagers do not listen and when the rain comes they drink it and they all go insane. As he walks through the village to unsuccessfully dissuade people from continuing drinking the rain water to prevent worsening of the situation, the villagers ridicule him as if he is the one that is insane.

At last, he could not stand being accused of insanity by the insane people, so he opens his mouth to the sky and let the rain fall into his mouth and joins the crowd.”

Today we need to look at this fable from a different perspective in terms of the need for a Spiritual Reformation in our society. I see three types of people in relation to the Bitter Rain. Those who drink it, those who dissuade others from drinking it, and those who do not drink but, in the same time, do not care if others do—complacency.

I see that our society has drunk the Bitter Rain that makes us spiritually barren—may it be ideology, political correctness, or simple ignorance. As the fable teaches, if we don’t influence them, they will eventually influence us. If it is not now, it will be our children, or the future generations. We cannot be complacent.

As Christ followers, we are called not only to cultivate a fruitful life, but also a fruitful society, or we will end up being crushed by the thorns and thistles.

One of the reason for our complacency is “What if we are wrong? Who are we go judge?” I assure you that nothing can be wrong to cultivate the fruit of the spirit because Galatians 5:23 says, “There is no law against such things.” (Ga 5:23b). The reason there is no law against such things is simply because they cannot go wrong.

Now what is involved in Spiritual Reformation. I see three steps: repent, receive, and reform.

1 – REPENT WITH AN OPEN HEART

All prophecy calls for repentance. To repent (μετανοώ in Greek) means to change one’s mind or heart. It implies the change of mind from being egocentric to theocentric. We must repent from our own complacency—may it be due to fear or laziness. This is how the Prophet Isaiah urged the complacent:

Rise up, you women who are at ease, hear my voice;
you complacent daughters, listen to my speech.
In little more than a year
you will shudder, you complacent ones;
for the vintage will fail,
the fruit harvest will not come.

Tremble, you women who are at ease,
shudder, you complacent ones;
strip, and make yourselves bare,
and put sackcloth on your loins.

Beat your breasts for the pleasant fields,
for the fruitful vine,
for the soil of my people
growing up in thorns and briers;
yes, for all the joyous houses
in the jubilant city. (Is 32:9–13).

John the Baptist also called out for repentance as he laid the way for Jesus to launch the original Spiritual Reformation. Jesus also began his ministry calling for repentance. “From that time Jesus began to proclaim, “Repent, for the kingdom of heaven has come near.” (Mt 4:17).

So let us first prepare our own hearts and minds by repenting from being egocentric to theocentric.

2 – RECEIVE WITH AN OPEN MIND

There is a disturbing truth about bearing fruit. We cannot bear the fruit of the Spirit by ourselves. The fruit is the outcome the Spirit we receive. We cannot squeeze out fruit, but we can cultivate a life to be fruitful because when it comes to bearing fruit, we are only branches.

Jesus said, “Abide in me as I abide in you. Just as the branch cannot bear fruit by itself unless it abides in the vine, neither can you unless you abide in me. I am the vine, you are the branches. Those who abide in me and I in them bear much fruit, because apart from me you can do nothing.” (Jn 15:4-5).

“Abide in me, as I abide in you” (v.4) means being present at his presence. In the context of this passage, we are called to receive the Holy Spirit which brings his presence, power, and pruning to bear much fruit.

How do we receive the Holy Spirit? I have four suggestions:

a) We receive the Holy Spirit by Breathing the Spiritual Breath

The word Spirit is translated from the Hebrew and Greek words meaning “Breath” or “Wind.” As Jesus told Nicodemus, “Do not be astonished that I said to you, ‘You must be born from above.’ The wind blows where it chooses, and you hear the sound of it, but you do not know where it comes from or where it goes. So it is with everyone who is born of the Spirit.” (Jn 3:7–8).

The Holy Spirit is invisible. It is like the wind around us that we cannot see it but we can sense its presence. It is the breath of God, so when we breathe with mindfulness of God’s presence we receive the Holy Spirit and, when we do, we feel warm and peaceful in our heart.

The warmth we feel when we are filled with the Holy Spirit is the evidence of God’s presence in us. That’s why the Holy Spirit is also symbolized by a flame of fire.

We must note that human beings are created to enjoy this warmth, or we will substitute it with other substance, such as alcohol that generates artificial warmth in us. That’s why Paul warned us, “Do not get drunk with wine, for that is debauchery; but be filled with the Spirit.” (Eph 5:18).

This verse implies that being drunk with wine is similar to being filled with the Holy Spirt but it’s fake and abnormal (as debauchery is translated from Greek ἀσωτία, meaning sick or abnormal). Then it gives instruction on how to get the real result—by being filled with the Spirit. The rest of the passage gives us the second way to be filled with the Holy Spirit.

b) We Receive the Holy Spirit by Singing the Spiritual Songs

Let’s break down this passage, “Be filled with the Spirit, as you sing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs among yourselves, singing and making melody to the Lord in your hearts, giving thanks to God the Father at all times and for everything in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.” (Eph 5:18b-20)

Three types of songs are suggested—psalms, hymns, and spiritual songs. We can sing aloud or sing “in our hearts.” We can be singing all day long in our hearts. Imagine a heart fill with songs all day long. We sing them with the attitude of gratitude. Counting the blessings brings us to God’s presence, fills us with the Holy Spirit, and makes our hearts warm.

c) We Receive the Holy Spirit by Reading the Spiritual Words

All scriptures are inspired (i.e. in spirit) by God. When we read the spiritual words, the Spirit of God enters our minds and enlightens our paths, as the psalmist says, “Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.” (Ps 119:105). The Prophet Jeramiah said, “Your words were found, and I ate them, and your words became to me a joy and the delight of my heart.” (Je 15:16). All prophets enjoy God’s word. We are called to be prophets and God word is our food.

There are three different kinds of spiritual words—written word, spoken word, and living word. The scriptures are the written word, the sermons are the spoken word, and Jesus Christ is the living Word. Therefore, we read the scriptures, we listen to the sermons, and we commune with Jesus Christ. All these activities will lead to a spirit filled life.

d) We Receive the Holy Spirit by Worshiping with the Spiritual Community

Jesus said, “For where two or three are gathered in my name, I am there among them.” (Mt 18:20). Whenever you cannot get the warmth of the Holy Spirit by yourself, get together with a few friends in Jesus’ name.

A coal cannot burn for long by itself, but it can become red hot in a pile of coals. A worshiping community is a powerhouse for rekindling the inner fire. Christians are not meant to be lone rangers. A long ranger Christian will sooner or later become ineffective and powerless.

With the above four ways, we are filled with the Holy Spirit and we will not seek other substitutes to quench our thirst, look for alcohol to heat our hearts, or set up idols to worship.

3 – REFORM WITH AN OPEN TONGUE

The previous Reformation is a theological reformation, which is mainly intellectual. While a theological reformation was to correct the digression of the church in the 16th century, it does not address the spiritual depravation of the 21st century, as revealed in our current state of the spirit. Head knowledge of doctrines, no matter how right it may be, does not quench the starvation of the heart.

Now, as mentioned above, we have a bitter society because they have drunk the Bitter Rain. The Bitter Rain maybe the idolatry of theological correctness, political correctness, or ideological correctness. It’s the first century all over again. Our society has become like the Pharisees and Sadducees of Jesus time, totally blind to the spiritual truth and barren of spiritual fruit.

If Jesus were here today, will our society, including the religious leaders of our time, recognize him? Will he be crucified again? Based on the current state of the spirit, I think the history will repeat, unless we renew the Spiritual Reformation that Jesus started.

He came to baptized us with the Holy Spirit and brought us to a higher level of consciousness above the idolatry of theological, political, and ideological correctness. He commissioned us to extend his movement to the end of the world by being his witnesses.

A witness is someone who has seen or experienced what he or she is testifying about, or it will be false witness. That’s why the above two steps are important to prepare for the Spiritual Reformation. A witness tells a story of himself or herself—this is my story, this is my song!

Witnessing today also needs us to speak in the tongue that this generation can understand. In the movie “The American President” played by Michael Douglas, we hear the following metaphor during a heated argument between President Shepherd and his staff Lewis Rothschild (Michael J. Fox):

Lewis: People want leadership, Mr. President, and in the absence of genuine leadership, they’ll listen to anyone who steps up to the microphone. They want leadership. They’re so thirsty for it they’ll crawl through the desert toward a mirage, and when they discover there’s no water, they’ll drink the sand.

President: Lewis, we’ve had presidents who were beloved, who couldn’t find a coherent sentence with two hands and a flashlight. People don’t drink the sand because they’re thirsty. They drink the sand because they don’t know the difference.

This metaphor reveals two layers of the problems we are facing. First, people drink the sand because there is no water. In our Bitter Rain metaphor, we can say that people drink the Bitter Rain because there’s no living water. Second, the president believes it is not the lack of water that is the problem, but the lack of knowledge and understanding is. In our case, people drink the Bitter Rain not because they don’t have water, but they don’t know the difference.

These two layers are not mutually exclusive. They indicate two types of people: those who don’t have access to the living water and those who don’t know the difference. That means we must solve two problems: providing the living water, and educating them to know the difference.

Jesus said, “Out of the believer’s heart shall flow rivers of living water.” (Jn 7:38b). The context of this verse explains that the living water represents the Holy Spirit, which permanently quenches our thirst. Many leaders nowadays are delivering ideology rather than the living water because ideology—the Bitter Rain—is all they have. They cannot give away what they don’t have.

Those of us who have the living water might find ourselves like the president “who couldn’t find a coherent sentence with two hands and a flashlight.” However, Professor Leonard Sweet has provided us with the tongue of the postmodern generation, and he calls it EPIC—Experiential, Participatory, Image-rich, and Connective.

To speak to the postmodern EPIC generation, we must provide an “experience,” as oppose to mere information as we used to do with the modern generation. We must provide opportunity for them to “participate,” creating a dialogue rather than a monologue. We must provide an “image-rich” presentation because they grew up in an image-rich environment. Lastly, we must provide a “connective” environment as today’s social media is all about constant connections.

The Holy Spirit provides us with hope and happiness and the overture to witness. “But in your hearts revere Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect.” (1 Pe 3:15). It is gentle and respectful to recognize the EPIC tongue and speak accordingly so that they can understand.

Telling our story in EPIC language may not be easy, but just because it is not easy, the power of the cross is revealed, as Paul said, “For Christ did not send me to … proclaim the gospel … with eloquent wisdom, so that the cross of Christ might not be emptied of its power. (1 Co 1:17).

The EPIC tongue is still only a means for communication. What’s important is not to lose the focus of the Spiritual Reformation. The 16th century Reformation is “faith focus,” which is necessary for its time and space, but Jesus’ Spiritual Reformation that we must renew for the 21st century to address the current state of the spirit is “fruit focus!” Amen!

Safe Water Project for Myanmar


I’m posting this here to let you know about my recent project. As the President Elect of the Paramus Rotary Club, I feel humbled to be part of this new Safe Water Project for Myanmar. The good news is this is a 1 for 3 deal. Your donation will be matched by our club President Nick Laganella, and again matched 50% by the Rotary World Fund. So if you donate $1,000, it will become $3,000. That’s a great deal to make a difference. For further information, visit www.iLoveMyanmar.com/water.

What Leaders Can Learn from the Baptism of Jesus – How to Have an Epiphany

We’ve often been told by leadership gurus that the key to leadership is having a vision. However, as I’ve stated previously, a great leader needs more than a vision, he or she needs an epiphany. A vision, as we use nowadays, is often a personal desire of a future we want to create, but an epiphany is a divine calling to fulfill a greater purpose above self. In short, a vision is about self, and an epiphany is above self. More often than not, a vision has an ego attached to it.

Experts say that the success of the Starbucks is attributed to the vision of Howard Schultz, who told his friends in Chicago, when he built the first coffee shop there—the first one outside of Seattle—“Five years from now, everyone on the streets of Chicago will be holding a cup of Starbucks coffee.” That’s a very clear and concise vision, and he managed to fulfilled it.

When Steve Jobs decided to make the first iPhone, he told his team that he wanted to create a cellphone so beautiful that everyone holding it wants to lick it. That’s a vivid vision, and we know the rest of the history.

Visions like these have made many leaders rich, but we often failed to count those who failed, which might be a thousand times in numbers. Who want to keep a statistic of failures anyway!

Now here’s what a vision is like in the olden days. Martin Luther King, Jr.’s “I Have a Dream” speech is a vision, but with today’s standard, it’s more than a vision because it’s not personal, but a divine calling. I call it an epiphany.

Now, the question is how can we have an epiphany? Epiphany means “to appear.” It usually means the divine appearance. So, we might think, since it’s a divine appearance, we would have no control of it. Do we have to just sit there and wait for the epiphany?

In fact, God is always revealing Godself. It’s a matter of whether we have the eyes to see it. For the magi during the first Christmas, their epiphany was the bright shiny star in the sky. Their stargazing skill allowed them to interpret the star as a sign of divine appearance and prompted them to take the treacherous journey to the west.

Many people during that time might have seen the star but they didn’t know what it means. Many others simply ignored it. In fact, the first century history of China has recorded a strange and unusually bright shiny star in the sky. The point is, the divine signs are all over us, we just need the eye and the state of mind to see it, and when we do, it is our epiphany.

Jesus had an epiphany at his baptism. Matthew recorded that, “And when Jesus had been baptized, just as he came up from the water, suddenly the heavens were opened to him and he saw the Spirit of God descending like a dove and alighting on him.” Then he heard the voice, “And a voice from heaven said, ‘This is my Son, the Beloved, with whom I am well pleased.’” (Matthew 3:16-17)

What brought him this epiphany was his surrendering of his will to do God’s will. When he came to John to get baptized, John refused to baptize him because he knew Jesus’ divine status ever since they were in their mother’s womb. John said he was not even worthy of untying Jesus sandals. So, he felt that he should be baptized by Jesus instead.

But Jesus said, “Let it be so now; for it is proper for us in this way to fulfill all righteousness.” (Matthew 3:15) It other words, “Let’s surrender our status and self-importance. Let’s just fulfill God’s greater purpose for all righteousness.” Yes, it was God’s will for him to come on earth to fulfill all righteousness, but God never forced him to do so. It was his choice to surrender his will.

From this moment on, we see he consistently surrendered his will throughout his ministry until he was crucified. At the eleventh hour of his crucifixion, he was praying at the Garden of Gethsemane, asking God to remove the bitter cup from him, meaning he rather not suffer the pain of crucifixion. He prayed, “Father, if you are willing, remove this cup from me. Nevertheless, not my will, but yours, be done.” Here’s another example of surrendering his will.

To have an epiphany, we must surrender our will to do God’s will. That’s how we enter Leadership Above Self!

Great Leaders Have More Than A Vision; They Have An Epiphany

It’s true that having a vision is what makes leaders different from the followers. However, heaving an epiphany is what makes GREAT leaders different from AVERAGE leaders throughout history and around the world. What’s the difference? Based on today’s interpretation, vision is an image of a future that comes out of personal desire, which can be very noble, but epiphany is a divine calling inspired from above.

The word Epiphany is from Greek (ἐπιφάνεια) that means “to appear,” often refers to a divine appearance. What Moses had was an epiphany, not just a vision. God showed up in the burning bush and gave Moses the calling to liberate the Israelites.

If we look at the biographies of the great leaders in history, we often find a moment of their encounter with the divine. A mere vision would not empower them to sacrifice their lives for a personal purpose.

January 6th of every year is known as the day of Epiphany, when Christians celebrate, depending on the type of church they belong to, the visit of the three magi to the Christ child. Let’s not get caught up with how many magi there were and what profession they were really in, which is a different topic.

What matters here is the magi’s epiphany came from a bright shiny star in the sky. That epiphany was a big enough reason for them to take the treacherous journey from the East to the Middle East what they believe to be a special child.

Many people might have seen the same star and ignored it. If you ask, “How can I have an epiphany?” the answer is simply, “Pay attention to what’s around you.” It’s also called “Consciousness.”
Leadership is a treacherous journey. Mere vision is not enough because vision is often attached to the ego, and an ego trip would not go very far. We need a divine calling through an epiphany because only an epiphany can make us forget about our self (ego), and become Leaders Above Self!

E=mc² Equivalent for Leadership

We all know that Leadership is a HIGH STRESS position. In fact, every leader rises and falls on stress management. Some leaders fall on overt stress and some on covert stress. The overt stress is obvious, and it’s usually the stress of shame caused by Scoff, Sabotage, Setback, and Suffering. The covert stress is the subtle destructive force of pride that comes from Praise, Prestige, Profit, and Pleasure.

For thousands of years, according to the Chinese leadership sages who coached the highly effective kings and officers, these stress factors are known as the Eight Winds of Leadership that constantly assail a leader. The greater the leader the heavier the stress factors. It’s like the taller the tree, the more winds it has to stand against. So, what is the solution? How can a leader stand against the winds and, in the same time, be effective?

Surprisingly, like Einstein’s short and sweet E=MC² formula in physics, Laozi came up with a short and sweet formula for leadership known as WuWei (無為), often translated as “Do Nothing” or “Non Action.” A longer version of this formula is WuWei Er WuBuWei (無為而無不為), meaning “Do Nothing but Everything Gets Done”.

This well-known formula is often misinterpreted. Many leaders know about it, many scholars have wrote about it, and even a religion was built upon it. Yet, it is like a secret in plain sight, not many people have the privilege to understand it. Just as you need some knowledge on physics to appreciate E=mc², you have to be a leader to appreciate WuWei.

What’s amazing about this formula is that it’s not only about leadership stress management, but also about leadership success because this formula both remove stress and improve leadership effectiveness at the same time. It hits two birds with one stone because WuWei requires you to rise above your ego to fulfill a divine purpose. That’s why I call it Leadership Above Self. You will get a clearer picture of it as you read the whitepaper.

Just as E=mc² gave birth to the atomic bomb, WuWei powers leaders with irresistible influence and achievement throughout history and around the world, especially in a changing time like ours.

This wisdom of leadership is so important that I wish I had grasped it twenty years ago. I have shared my discovery with a few friends who are leaders and they appreciate it greatly because they found themselves thriving with increasing influence and decreasing stress. Now, I’m sharing the fruit of my research and discovery on a brief leadership whitepaper titled, “The One Single Secret Every Leader Must Know.” Please click here to get a copy.

PRESENCE: The High Five Gifts of Christmas (#1)

What I like about Christmas is that it comes right before the New Year. It helps me end the year with a positive note, no matter how hard the year had been. And it also helps me enter the New Year with hope because of the good news of Christmas.

I know for some people, this Christmas might not be a happy one, especially for those who have lost their loved ones, and for those who miss their family members because they cannot be home—such as our service men and women.

Still, the true message of Christmas can lift up our spirit, melt down our sorrows, and heighten our hope for a better New Year and beyond.

When we were young, the primary reason of joy at Christmas time is the gifts we received. Our expectation of gifts becomes bigger as we grow older. Maybe men are weaker on this aspect, as I heard women say, “the difference between a boy and a man is the price of his toys.”

Hopefully, sooner or later, we all become mature enough to look for gifts beyond material things. As I grow older, I long more for the invisible gifts of Christmas, than the physical ones. (That doesn’t mean I don’t appreciate your physical gifts—the more the merrier!) I am sure you also feel the same as you become older and more mature.

In fact, we all receive five most precious presents of life from Christmas. However, I’ve discovered that many people have never unwrapped all of these five gifts. A gift that is not unwrapped is equal to not receiving it.

If you want to make the most out of Christmas for a great New Year, you need to unwrap these five most invaluable gifts that I call the High Five Gifts of Christmas. I will explain why I call them High Five Gifts rather than Top Five Gifts.

In this article, I’ll focus on the first and most important gift of Christmas that we must unwrap to get the most out of the next year.

1 – Unwrap the Gift of God’s Presence

The Presence of God is where happiness resides, as King David said: “You show me the path of life. In your presence there is fullness of joy; in your right hand are pleasures forevermore.” (Ps. 16:11) In spite of all his power, prestige, and prosperity, King David found God presence to be a happier place to be.

One of Jesus’ nickname is Immanuel, meaning “God with us.” His birth brought the gift of God’s presence. John said, “And the Word became flesh and lived among us, and we have seen his glory, the glory as of a father’s only son, full of grace and truth.” (John 1:14).

The Word, with the capital “W” is translated from the Greek word Logos. It means more than just word, or speech, but it means the Way, the Truth, and the Life, as Jesus explained. It’s the Chinese equivalent of the “Tao”, the profound essence of God.

How can you know, see, or experience God’s presence? I would give you a nice Taoist answer. A baby fish was asking his mother, “Mom, I’ve heard people talking about this thing called ocean. What is it?” The mother said, “We are living and swimming in the ocean! It’s all around us. Even though we cannot see it, we can sense or feel it because we are within it.”

What if this Ocean, the Tao, or the Word, became flesh and live with us to make His presence more real and personal? In fact, that is exactly what happened on Christmas: “the Word became flesh and lived among us.”

Jesus said something similar, “The wind blows where it chooses, and you hear the sound of it, but you do not know where it comes from or where it goes. So it is with everyone who is born of the Spirit.” (John 3:8). He also said, “Very truly, I tell you, no one can see the kingdom of God without being born from above.” (Jn 3:3).

To “see the kingdom” is to see God’s presence, where the ultimate happiness resides, as King David stated. Just like the wind that we can’t see or touch, but we know it exists because of the result of its presence—the movement of the leaves, the whipping of our hair, the fluttering of the curtain. According to King David, the result of the presence of God is the ultimate happiness. The moment we sense the fullness of joy and everlasting pleasures that comes from presence of God, we are born from above. We enter into a higher level of consciousness.

In Buddhism, it’s called “the Wisdom”, or precisely “the Wisdom of All-Knowing.” One of the top prayers of a Buddhist is to obtain the Wisdom because it brings about enlightenment. The Wisdom is not just the presence of God, but God. Just like John said, “In the beginning, there was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.”

In fact, all major religions seek God’s presence. Confucius said, “If I know the Tao in the morning, I am happy to die that evening.” I’m sure if Confucius was alive five hundred years later to see the star of Christmas, he would have risked everything, like the magi, to jump on his camel pay him homage. Luke recorded that a man name Simeon and a prophet named Anna waited until their old age to see the birth of Christ—the presence of God on earth—so that they could depart this world with joy.

Jesus Christ, the presence of God, is the fulfillment of what all religions have been hoping for. Christianity is not another religion in competition with others. It’s the fulfillment of the prophecies of all religions around the world throughout history. That’s why it is the Good News. It’s a joy to the world. Jesus said, “Do not think that I have come to abolish the law or the prophets; I have come not to abolish but to fulfill.” (Mat. 5:17)

There is an emptiness in our hearts that makes us hungry for God’s presence. No success or achievement in our lives can fill that gap. No processions, power, or prestige can bring us the kind of joy and pleasures equal to God’s presence.

The good news is God’s presence is one of the High Five Gifts of Christmas. So, don’t miss it. Let us unwrap it to experience the fullness of joy and everlasting pleasure of the presence of God. Merry Christmas!

The Paradox of Humility

The Paradox of Humility

Most people know that humility is beneficial in every way, but maintaining humility is not easy.  Humility is not thinking less about yourself, but recognizing that you can learn more by keeping your cup empty.  When I think about humility, I can’t help but remember Benjamin Franklin, a well-rounded high achiever in art, science, and politics.  He attributed his achievement to a list of thirteen virtues that he lived by.  He created the list when he was twenty, and resolved to live by it all his life.  Here’s the list:

  1. Temperance. Eat not to dullness; drink not to elevation.
  2. Silence. Speak not but what may benefit others or yourself; avoid trifling conversation.
  3. Order. Let all your things have their places; let each part of your business have its time.
  4. Resolution. Resolve to perform what you ought; perform without fail what you resolve.
  5. Frugality. Make no expense but to do good to others or yourself; i.e., waste nothing.
  6. Industry. Lose no time; be always employed in something useful; cut off all unnecessary actions.
  7. Sincerity. Use no hurtful deceit; think innocently and justly, and, if you speak, speak accordingly.
  8. Justice. Wrong none by doing injuries, or omitting the benefits that are your duty.
  9. Moderation. Avoid extremes; forbear resenting injuries so much as you think they deserve.
  10. Cleanliness. Tolerate no uncleanliness in body, clothes, or habitation.
  11. Tranquility. Be not disturbed at trifles, or at accidents common or unavoidable.
  12. Chastity. Rarely use venery but for health or offspring, never to dullness, weakness, or the injury of your own or another’s peace or reputation.
  13. Humility. Imitate Jesus and Socrates.

When Franklin reached 65, he wrote his autobiography, in which he reevaluated his life based on these thirteen principles.  He was proud to declare that he had attained and maintained all these principles except one—humility.  Did he really not?

We can draw two interpretations from this statement about humility.  The first is “Humility is not easy”—even a great man like Benjamin Franklin couldn’t attain it.  The second is, by saying he hasn’t attained humility, he had attained it because if he said he did, he would not be humble anymore.  It was creative and keeps me thinking about the paradox of humility.

Jesus warned us to maintain our humility even when we have attained honorable status spiritually or socially.  He used the Parable of the Pharisee and the Tax Collector to teach a lesson on humility.  The Pharisee prayed, “God, I thank you that I am not like other people: thieves, rogues, adulterers, or even like this tax collector. I fast twice a week; I give a tenth of all my income.” (Luke 18:11-12).  All this Pharisee’s spiritual achievement is wiped off by his “contempt” (Luke 18:9) toward fellow human beings.

Jesus then said, “All who exalt themselves will be humbled, but all who humble themselves will be exalted.” (Lk 18:14).  Let us stay humble and be fruitful.  Amen!

Can Food Make You Stupid? (Food and Spirituality)

I remember when I was in high school, back in Burma, students were allowed to bring snacks into the classrooms after recess. One of the most common snacks we enjoyed was sunflower seeds–those unshelled ones.  One day, the teacher got annoyed by the noise we made cracking the sunflower seeds and eating them in the class.  She came to our desks and asked us to stop eating.  I distinctly remember she asked, “Don’t you know that food can create stupidity?”

In Burmese, she actually said, “Don’t you know that food can cause moha?”  The word “moha” came from Pali and Sanskrit meaning “ignorance, stupidity, or dullness.”  Moha is one of the three spiritual poisons, which are lobha, dosa, and moha, meaning “greed, anger, and stupidity.”  These three things can poison your spiritual enlightenment.

We tend to think stupidity is natural—that some were born that way.  However, since then I’ve learned that even though we are born with certain level of intelligence, we can still increase it or decrease it by what we do, particularly what we eat or not eat.  Forest Gump was born stupid, but he turned out to be one of the smartest guys by sticking on doing the right things.

All major religions that I know have a ritual of fasting.  Ancient wisdom literatures often mention the value fasting.  The Bible says, Jesus fasted for forty days before he launched his ministry. Fasting gives us mental clarity.  It opens our mind to God’s mind.  It allows us to discern God’s will and clarify our calling, so that we can make better decisions, or godly decisions, and ultimately make a difference in the world with our lives.

Medically, it has been long proven the benefits of fasting.  At minimum, it helps us heal.  It keeps us fit if you do it properly.  The opposite is also true.  If you Google, “Food can make you stupid” you will find a lot of articles about how your diet can affect your brain functions.  You can do some research and tell me what you think.

Jesus taught a parable of the rich man and Lazarus in Luke 16:19-31.  The rich man spent his life feasting sumptuously every day.  At his gate was Lazarus, who was dying of hunger and disease.  Lazarus died and ended up in Abrahams arms. Later the rich man also died, but he ended up being tormented in Hades.  In short, his problem was not his wealth, but his food-induced stupidity that made him fail to heed God’s calling and use his gift to make a difference.  At least he could have made a difference in the life of a man who was dying at his gate.

In the Judeo-Christian tradition, we have a Sabbath day once a week.  The Sabbath is for us to fast.  The problem is, some religious people follow this ritual superstitiously and some don’t follow it at all because they don’t understand the value of fasting and feasting.

Just as we read in the Bible about Jesus fasting, we also read about Jesus feasting.  If you read the Gospel of Luke, you’ll see Jesus feasted quite a lot—we read about him frequently being present at someone’s dinner party—to a point that the Pharisees accused him of being a glutton, implying that he wasn’t spiritual because a spiritual man doesn’t eat so much.  But Jesus said that there are times when you must feast, and times when you must fast. (Luke 5:33–35)

Just like Kenny Rogers’ song that says, “You’ve got to know when to hold ’em, know when to fold ’em, know when to walk away, and know when to run.”  You’ve got to know what food to eat and what to avoid and when.

I’ve been practicing intermittent fasting lately and it helps me normalize my blood sugar.  It also gives me mental clarity, increased ability to concentrate on my work.  I also lost quite a bit of body fat.  However, I don’t do it blindly, I did my research carefully both from spiritual and medical perspective.

Here’s my recommendation.  Treat your eating as a spiritual activity.  Don’t eat it so much and so frequently that it produces spiritual dullness, or stupidity.  You can start by learning to fast once a week.  Each of us has a different body and unique metabolism, so I’m not advising you to do what I do.  But I’m willing to share my knowledge with you.  Always check with your doctor first.

So this is my advice “You’ve got to know when to fast, know when to feast. You’ve got to know what to pass, and know what to eat” because your wisdom, fulfillment, and eternal happiness depend on it.  You are here on earth to fulfill a dream—a calling, and you need an optimal body, mind, and spirit to make the maximum impact in the world so that God’s name is glorified with your life.

I’d love to hear about your experiment.  If you have questions, I’ll be happy to answer them.  Please do post your questions and comments below.